November 2007

Here are the first two of a series of tips that if you do them right will not only get you through Christmas smiling but the new year aswell!  These really are simple applied NLP processes.

Tip number one

A good few years ago I stopped associating with a certain group of people.  I found them really negative and very habitualised to what they ( and anyone else ) aught to do and accept in life.  I found even short exposure to these people increasingly depressing and draining of positive energy.  Life really can be what you make it.

Choose you friends well!  There is nothing worse than spending time with the terminally negative.  For these people everything is sorted into the bad category and guess what like horse dung it sticks!  Let these people chew their own legs.  Lose the negative people you called friends from your own life.  If what you have been doing ain’t working dump the chumps!  Share your time with positive and excellent people as much as you can. Notice the difference!

Tip number two

When I used to work offshore there was a genuine constant pressure to perform well.  The environment was potentially very dangerous; North Sea, Radioactive sources and very heavy drilling equipment.  Being in a good state, alert, energetic.  My boss at the time Marty told me he listened to music before a shift to put him in the ‘right state of mind’.  Coming from a man who had spent many years running a very safe shift this seems a great tip for success.

When driving or commuting two and from your place of work listen to music or recordings that you genuinely find pleasurable, fun and honestly entertaining.  It doesn’t have to be music, it could be comedy or drama.   Your looking for whatever floats yer boat and puts you in a right good state.  This is of course the lazy persons way of anchoring a good state.  Don’t you owe it to yourself to at least give it a go?

best wishes
nigel

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On the delayed 10.30 train from Kings Cross, I am traveling back to Newcastle, NLP training at the fore front of my mind. I have been to the NLP conference, an experience of great interest, that I will write up and share my views on in the future. The even was superbly organised and well worth a visit next year. I have met some wonderful energetic people with real passion I am of course talking of both the delegates and some of the presenters. Several of the big name presenters quite categorically stated that the NLP scene here in the UK is bigger than in the US. They demonstrated a great deal of enthusiasm about this, what I would call ‘giving it a bit of the old flannel‘ and I cant help but wonder if the current US recession adds more fuel to their desires. There was, for me a curiosity regarding some of the presenters relationship with the audience and their apparent lack of knowledge, rapport and respect for other’s model of the world. There is to me a almost ubiquitous theme of re-branding and repackaging attempts at product sepperation of the various weaving threads of NLP from one another. More on this subject at another time…

the Meta Model essentially does two things when used ‘as intended’

1. It assist stuck clients to change - Therapeutic
2. It gets high quality information - Business / Pleasure / Therapeutic

Additionally the NLP Cafe, a structured, Newcastle NLP Practice group will be open for its first event on Wednesday 12th December 7-9pm. How to Create a Brilliant Future
Its a Christmas present at £10.00 or just £9.00 if you book online. Get 2008 on track and have a path with a heart.

Our NLP Practitioner course beginning in January 2008 and the current Integrity NLP Practitioner in Newcastle will uncover the Meta Model and those who are on our next Newcastle Clinical Hypnotherapy training will leave with a well grounded and practical knowledge of applying this process therapeutically.

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Two people were talking about buying Christmas presents, in a coffee shop in Newcastle.
I was there sitting chatting with Andy about our upcoming Master Practitioner course in 2008. The couple opposite us were really enjoying their Costa Massimo. My phone went so I excused myself from the planning and answered. The phone call was made by someone requiring some help with a phobia. The were talking and they said “… yes I have had it for several years now and you know how you cant stop yourself” It was at that juncture that I said “hold on, you just said that I cant stop myself I presume you mean ‘you’ not ‘me’”. After arranging an appointment I returned to to my conversation with Andy, planning our Master Practitioner and just knew Andy was happy with our progress.

the Meta Model essentially does two things when used ‘as intended’

1. It assist stuck clients to change - Therapeutic
2. It gets high quality information - Business / Pleasure / Therapeutic

Additionally the NLP Cafe, a structured, Newcastle NLP Practice group will be open for its first event on Wednesday 12th December 7-9pm.
Its a Christmas cracker at £10.00 or just £9.00 if you book online.

Our NLP Practitioner course beginning in January 2008 and the current Integrity NLP Practitioner in Newcastle will uncover the Meta Model and those who are on our next Newcastle Clinical Hypnotherapy training will leave with a well grounded and practical knowledge of applying this process therapeutically.

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Breath in and relax - no seriously, take a relaxing breath or two. Relaxing means your changing your state and changing your state is good. If you are experiencing any run up to Christmas pressures you are no doubt going to deal with them in your own unique ways.

I had a shopping experience recently, I was in Newcastle city center and intended purchasing some electrical item. The electrical dealers on Northumberland street seemed the place to go. The assistants were busy talking to themselves about Christmas parties and the like and not at all assisting customers. Trained Baboons would have certainly been more amusing and equally as helpful, I waited about seven minutes and then left, no wonder shop sales are declining - no apparent customer care. The so called service was shit so I left that shop to purchase elsewhere and after one or two more disappointing shopping experiences and a phone call where I could not make head nor tail of some foreign attempted at English it meant I was much better off purchasing online.

the Meta Model essentially does two things when used ‘as intended’

1. It assist stuck clients to change - Therapeutic
2. It gets high quality information - Business / Pleasure / Therapeutic

Our NLP Practitioner course beginning in January 2008 and the current Integrity NLP Practitioner in Newcastle will uncover the Meta Model and those who are on our next Newcastle Hypnotherapy course will leave with a well grounded and practical knowledge of applying this process therapeutically.

Additionally the NLP Cafe, a structured, Newcastle NLP Practice group will be open for its first event on Wednesday 12th December 7-9pm.
Its a Christmas cracker at £10.00 or just £9.00 of you book online.

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During a lot of my initial NLP training, the emphasis to me was primarily problem focused.  Not in the sense that that the ‘change’ process was focused on a problem, that wouldn’t even be NLP.  No I mean to say that the context for change was always a problem context.

People often seek out a good clinician for some assistance with their solutions to perceived problems and equally clients requiring more positive or ‘more better’ circumstances in their life will seek out a good performance coach.  Essentially the same processes are used for both outcomes.

During our IntegrityNLP NLP Practitioner training in Newcastle upon Tyne, you will hear the facilitators framing NLP Processes in terms of both solution focused outcomes for ‘problems’ and ‘performance improvements’, and you can apply the same meta-process when using EFT.

My good friend Andy Hunt introduced me to EFT some years ago.  Andy provides excellent and cost effective EFT trainings in Newcastle. 

Here is my own version of using EFT for feeling the way you want.  Before you go try this yourself, I have used this process with a very small statistical sample.  About half the number required to make a statistically cogent argument, the results are extremely encouraging.  Anyway here is the process and its very simple.

1. Make a statement of what you do want, stated in the positive.

I want to feel X

X may be happy, resourceful, peaceful etc

2. Now, without using the process for the ‘Set Up’ ( psychological reversal )

Use your EFT tapping routine, saying your statement created in step 1. Do one to three rounds depending on your own experiences.

After you have tried this I am very interested in hearing about your experience.

nigel hetherington

Communicating Excellence

Excellence in Neuro Linguistic Programming and Clinical Hypnotherapy

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There is a lot of stuff to learn in an NLP Practitioner training. It’s not like learning to bake a cake there are lots of interacting themes and systems in operation, principles and ideas that need to be acquired and integrated.

So what sort of things do you learn in an IntegrityNLP NLP Practitioner training? And how do we help you learn them?

What do you learn?

• The basic beliefs and assumptions that underpin successful use of NLP
• The ability to define and realise ecological, desirable and attainable goals and objectives.
• How to monitor and influence your emotional responses to situations.
• The ability to establish and maintain connection to other people in order to achieve your outcomes.
• How to notice the subtle changes in another persons behaviour and appearance that indicate internal changes are taking place.
• The ability to notice patterns in behaviour so that changes can be detected and interpreted.
• How to appreciate the neurological mechanisms behind the five sense which indicate preferred methods of gathering and processing information and how to detect it what people say and do.
• To take different perspectives on a situation to gain a deeper understanding of what is going on within and between people.
• Understand and detect the patterns in language that enable you to notice the deeper structure of experience in what is been said to you and in what you say to yourself.
• How to use language in an artfully vague way to induce relaxed states for transformation.
• To use language to elicit and deploy really high quality and crystal clear specific information.
• The conscious use of stimulus response patterns to simply and easily change behaviours.
• How to detect and adjust the qualities of how people think and feel to change experience.
• The internal sequences of representations and behaviour that are habitually used to achieve an outcome.
• How to set boundaries on contexts to transmit, make and alter meaning.
• How to influence others ecologically, respectfully and with integrity.
• To apply NLP processes to yourself as well as to others.

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In a great many circles NLP has not got the best of reputations. It is currently being repacked and now appealing to mass audiences by many current writers. One exceptionally good one is Paul McKenna. Just look at his series of best selling books - all repackaged NLP yet hight readable with mass appeal. Will this repackaged NLP reach millions upon millions and change their lives or will the books simply be read and shelved somewhere. Will the lessons, at some level be instrumental in some beneficial social revolution or will no one do the exercises and the inherent value remain on the pages in set type.

The vast majority of NLP Processes, as far as I can currently
understand, are on the whole very good. The application of these
processes is up to the individual practitioner. One recent example in the Independent of Sunday’s ‘Success at work’ series presents a process. The process in itself is very good ( coming loosely from Gregory Batesons Double Bind Theory ). Yet for me, the ethics of application is highly questionable, especially in the context it is presented. This example is from the ‘feel good or no hassle technique’.

“Of course you could save £75 on our fees by dealing with the form choices yourself OR if you feel uncomfortable about wading through seven pages of time-consuming complex tax forms and material, which has to be spot on, we could do it for you“.

the Meta Model essentially does two things when used ‘as intended’

1. It assist stuck clients to change - Therapeutic
2. It gets high quality information - Business / Pleasure / Therapeutic

Our NLP Practitioner course beginning in January 2008 and the current Integrity NLP Practitioner in Newcastle will uncover the Meta Model and those who are on our next Newcastle Hypnotherapy course will leave with a well grounded and practical knowledge of applying this process therapeutically.

Just listen to yourself, relating even more fully with your clients whilst still operating effectively at a process level. If you are in any therapeutic field like the many complementary therapies or thinking of taking up your calling, you could take our Newcastle hypnotherapy course - it will help your communications during therapy be better and easier and faster as something evolves between parties. Learn to develop that hypnotic voice.

See, the more you look into this noticing that these Meta Model interventions are a set of specific verbal responses to a set of very specific words and phrases. Its really easy, so, not so surprisingly ‘clients’ and people are using them all the time, Look take note, its easy to say and do, just like bright learning, your seeing language in a new way…

the Art of Applied NLP is when and in what contexts to apply these specific verbal responses so as not to lose friends and alienate yourself.

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