“Would you tell me, please, which way I ought to go from here?”
“That depends a good deal on where you want to get to,” said the Cat.
“I don’t much care where -” said Alice.
“Then it doesn’t matter which way you go,” said the Cat
Lewis Carroll – Alice in Wonderland
We all want things.
Some things are quite simple: food, a place to live, comfort and warm clothing.
Other things are a bit more complicated: to be part of a community, an iPod, a luxury holiday in the Seychelles, that pair of delightful but ridiculously expensive shoes.
We all have outcomes, places we want to see, things we want to do, people we want to be with.
It’s a basic biological drive that goes way back. I remember in biology lessons many years ago learning about amoeba, moving away from noxious substance and flowing towards and engulfing particles of food. A single cell, one of the simplest living things, operating with an outcome ‘in mind’.
The problem is nobody tells us how to ‘do’ outcomes properly, we all have them and we all learn to go after them, one way or another. We just have to learn how on the job.
Sometimes:
- we get what we want: the dream date or the job we applied for.
- we miss the target and get something else – the dream date’s not so attractive friend or we fluff the interview for the job.
- we get what we want and find out after a little while that we don’t want everything that goes with it – this is the basis of ‘mother in law’ jokes.
- we don’t even know what we want, or have two different and contradictory desires.
Many of us thrash about doing the best we can with the learnings and skills that we have, but we could do it better.
Imagine for a moment that:
- you have the ability to know what you wanted with clarity.
- you can organise your efforts effectively to work towards that outcome
- you have a way to envisage what achieving that outcome would bring you, both the parts that you would like and the parts that might be more of a challenge. (Remember it’s better if you want everything that comes with what you want.)
- you have a way to reconcile conflicting impulses to be whole heartedly fits for you.
One of the pillars of NLP is the ‘outcome orientation’. The fundamental question of NLP is: What do you want?
Fortunately for us there is more than just the question, NLP has simple and effective processes for answering that question that makes your chances of achieving your outcomes much higher. We investigate outcomes and how to achieve them in our Introducing NLP training on June 19-20
A full weekend where all of the NLP principles, tools, techniques and process are explored through structured exercises and experiential learning. Two complete days NLP training in Newcastle and the cost of the introduction training is deducted from NLP Practitioner training for those who choose to go on to do the NLP Practitioner course. A really excellent way to discover the magic of NLP for a very low cost.
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